Since this is my first official post in the Pregnancy Series I decided to start, I may need to do a little back filling of information. These posts will be a little “off” in time anyway, as far as where I’m at in pregnancy but that’s the way I tend to do things so oh well!
We didn’t publicly announce our pregnancy until we were 18 weeks along. We wanted to wait until 20 weeks, mostly for personal reasons, but figured that our Baby-moon to Hawaii would be as good of an opportunity as ever to announce our Rainbow Baby from the beautiful Rainbow State.
(We have the best friend ever who took these photos for us.)
For anyone who doesn’t know – Rainbow babies are the babies born after a loss or miscarriage. The rainbow after the storm, if you will. Needless to say, our baby is going to be decked out in rainbows for as long as I’m in charge of dressing them. Which will probably only be a few years, as strong-willed personalities tend to run rampant on my side of the family.
Our due date is November 14th, but for some reason I think the baby will come before or after that. I had a dream that I was in the hospital on November 10th, so we’ll see if that dream becomes reality.
We chose not to find out the baby’s sex until we meet them in the flesh. We both agreed long before we got pregnant that we would not find out. We agree that our child’s sex is one of the less important parts of who they are. However, we did opt for genetic testing to make sure there are no chromosomal sex-linked disorders and we got the all clear there! So health wise, the babe is already perfect.
We probably already know their name, which is 99% going to be their name regardless of their sex. My parents named me in the same way and I always loved having a gender neutral name growing up. I’m probably not going to publicly share their name until they arrive. We have shared the name with some family and close friends. Just know it’s adorable. We are still undecided on middle names and those will more than likely be dependent on their sex.
My use of the pronoun “they” is continually confused and picked apart by people who want to assume I’m carrying twins instead of respect my choice of using gender neutral pronouns until we know. Even after I tell them “they” is gender neutral. Everyone would rather believe that I’m carrying twins and not sharing that news with them… which is weird… but whatever. If I was having twins I would be freaking out.
Health-wise, everything in the pregnancy has been relatively easy and unremarkable so far. I had a low lying placenta at our 20 week scan so we will have another ultrasound at 32 weeks to make sure everything is in it’s proper place.
Activity-wise – The baby moves SO MUCH! I have nothing else to compare it to, so in reality they could be moving a normal amount but boy, I feel it almost constantly. They love to play games with us already and we enjoy pushing back and forth with them inside my belly. My grandpa told me that when he used to feel my kicks, he had to wait around forever for kicks while this baby seems to dish them out like it’s going out of style! It seems like they are already going to keep us on our toes.
In week 27 the baby is as big as a head of lettuce, which is pretty subjective if you ask me. After double checking their size on google, I also just realized that the baby has been hiccuping for a few weeks now, which is basically the cutest thing ever.
The only other “notable” thing at this point in pregnancy has been this wonderful first-time experience with concerns over the appearance of my body. I know – cry me a river I never experienced body image concerns before now – but it’s still real to me. I weigh more than I ever have and my face, arms, and boobs have grown alongside my belly. My family assures me I’ve mostly only grown in the belly region, but through my eyes I notice every detail. Despite this, I am still so grateful to even feel “chubby” because this chubby body is creating another human life of probably the coolest person ever so it’s a cost I’m willing to pay for the beautiful gift I’m experiencing.
The next blog posts in this series will probably be shorter, but I can’t make any promises. 😉